It took arguments coming to a head and truths being told. It took harsh words given out of necessity but finally I think I understand my friend who has remained with her partner despite what they have been charged with pertaining to her children. I have had my eyes opened as to how a Mother is a victim too. She geuninely cannot see that what happened was wrong and that after a certain amount of similar actions they can no longer be deemed accidents. She has been groomed. Their whole lives became sexualised and now she cannot see where the boundaries should have stayed.
Okay, the charges are not as serious as they could be, they are at the lighter end of the sexual touch scale, but they are wrong nonetheless. I cannot see how an adult cannot realise that what happened was wrong. Okay everyone accidentally touches someone in the wrong place on occasion. It’s easy to do, normally you would just blush and apologise whilst wishing the ground would swallow you up. But the same type of ‘accident’ happening at least 10 times (the number of times this person has been charged with the same offence) which does not include at least one other of which I am aware that was witnessed. That’s not an accident. That’s intentional. That’s criminal.
I hope to be capable of supporting the children and the Mother, for they are all going to have a nasty fall once the case is over. Whatever the verdict, their lives have irrevocably altered for the worse.
